Shame-based behaviors thrive on silence. Their shame of not being able to urinate without problems - or at all - in public will lead to self-isolation. Someone / something you did once (probably when you were younger) and taught that your body works (and by extension, you!) Wrong, or dirty or defective.
The fact is that your features - and - are ok. This inhibition to pee in front of others - your shy bladder - is separate from you. You can let go.
Theirmust go to its inhibition of the public - both what you say and what you do. This does not mean that you should know (or do) from the rooftops. Go public with the first man's best friend. (The woman of your life to another person "out" with, if you have not already done so, but men usually relieve themselves in the presence of females, so there is no need to "out" on other female acquaintances.) talk to your boyfriend about it, pee shy. Then he is askedWitnesses to urinate.
"It 'impossible to do or ask!" You say. Why not? All friends help each other? It is necessary to improve the quality of what is likely to assess a friendship?
Freeing the argument with your best friend
"How could I cut off the subject?" You ask, horrified. "Much less urinate in front of him!"
1) You could say the following: "Is there anything I need to talk to you It 'difficult for me, but I must ask you something .." Sincecould be a long silence. Involved do not rely. Decides that will not leave until they said what you say. (Be sure not to approach your friend in a time when he fell, and so is going to offer a simple work task at hand!) This inhibition is under control, is not your friend. Her boyfriend loves you, wants to help.
In your request, tell your friend that everything is with him is for him to be with you (right behind you, besideYou, or in front of you - your choice) while urinating. Your friend needs to do more than help with the experience. (I followed this procedure many times.)
2) If it is easier to write an e-mail or letter to your friend. (This is what I have with my best friend. 'Was my first request.) Go ahead, do it now! You can write the rest of your home. You can write and send the message until it has the feeling of getting it right. Ask your friend for a response - either personally, by phone, or throughe-mail/mail. Then send the e-mail or mail immediately. Continue to the post, if necessary, so do not let the opportunity to change their mind and refuse the letter.
If the answer comes back positive, set a practice time. Before attempting to fill the bladder urine. Drinking water in more if necessary. Do not urinate for at least a few hours before the test!
They are nervous, but not backward. Tell your friends you are nervous. It 'best not to godeal public toilet, like other men enter and leave at night, and you should not use them. (What do you do, you intimidating enough without adding to the difficulty other people!) In addition, a single user public toilet is not a good choice because they knock on the door from an impatient person next installment in the series can be exposed, or you may fear that someone is waiting outside, and soon a knock on the door. Obviously, this will prevent. Use a toilet at home - or evenbetter, in the great outdoors. I recommend the nature, because by then so nervous that it is useful not to have, soon to take care of urine in the bowl.
Ask your friend in advance to secure, in so many words, that he wait so long that it will be necessary for you to urinate. Conversation can help - or on your inhibition about anything. Finally, even if it takes 10 minutes or twenty, you can relax and enjoy the flow of urine. (Remember that allThe water you drank first!) Congratulations! You have taken another important step to overcome your avoidant paruresis. This may, for the first time in your life that you are as urinating in public - be sure not the last! Urinating in front of another human being is a normal thing. How is jammed, which is not normal. We are moving towards normality.
Good luck!
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